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Just call me supermom [May. 14th, 2007|11:52 pm]
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The thing I Iove most about the net is also the thing I love the least - reading about how other mothers raise their children. 

In my dating years, I had many men fall madly in love with me. I don't say that to brag; I always thought it said more about the men I dated than it did about me. But the one thing all those men had in common was they all told me one of the things they loved most about me was that I would be a good mother. And that comment always made me go huh, and not just because inside I was shallowly screaming what about my hot bod? I just never saw it.

Oh, I always wanted to have children. In fact, growing up I never really dreamed of doing anything else. But I never really pictured myself being good at it. I think I mentioned in another post that I was once accused of being "maternally deficient". I always thought that was a pretty spot-on assessment.

On the internet, I've met many mothers over the years. And the thing they all have in common is that they are much, much better at mothering than I am. They have more imagination, more patience, and more passion than I do. They are better organized, better informed, and have cuter shoes.

But I guess I have my moments, because on Sunday my children gave me this sticker to wear.

Sticker to the contrary, they must know me well, because I also got this

Which is exactly the sort of practical yet sentimental gift I love.

Don't believe I'm terrible at this mothering thing? Just take a look at The Boy

sprawled across the couch at 11:45 pm because I don't make him go to bed at a reasonable hour. At least tonight he has on pajamas. That should make up for the fact that I can't even remember when he last had a bath, right?

From: (Anonymous)
2007-05-15 10:01 am (UTC)
awwwww....how cute! See this is how it works...I put my kids to bed early because I don't have the patience to deal with them any longer.

Happy Belated Mothers day!

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[User Picture]From: marshmelococoa
2007-05-15 11:33 am (UTC)
I sometimes feel the same about other moms. I don't try and keep up with the Jones' at all but I'm thankful for them to help me see things a bit differently. It rarely rubs off though since my boys have no set bedtime or bathtime either. Sometimes they just downright stink. And many days, it's hard to get any good food in them besides cheese puffs and corndogs. And I rarely care.
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[User Picture]From: spinthemoon
2007-05-17 04:50 am (UTC)
Yay! A kindred spirit!
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[User Picture]From: marshmelococoa
2007-05-20 03:50 pm (UTC)
That's because we were pregnant together. :D
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From: spritzcourt
2007-05-15 12:13 pm (UTC)
You know how everyone THINKs that others are happier, have their stuff together more, keep a better house ... basically have their act together more than you? It is just not true. We all have issues, we all have problems, none of us are perfect. And I think it's good for our kids to see it, too. Some people are just better at presenting their outer veneer to the rest of the world.

Maybe these are just the lies I tell myself so I can sleep at night....baths? Kids are supposed to bathe?
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[User Picture]From: quaero_verum
2007-05-15 04:07 pm (UTC)
You and I could start a club. ;-)

And we can take comfort in the fact that they are resilient and won't break if we slack on the bedtimes and bathings.

As long as there is food, shelter and genuine love, you really can't go wrong.
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From: (Anonymous)
2007-05-15 04:28 pm (UTC)
At the end of the day, it won't matter that the boy didn't go to bed at a "reasonable hour" or that I usually make my kids eat school cafeteria lunches because I'm too lazy to fix them lunch everyday. We could be a couple of Carol Bradys and the little wretches will grow up and think we were sucky parents about SOMETING(S) anyway.

Might as well enjoy yourself!

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From: misty_bay
2007-05-16 12:11 pm (UTC)

What great kids you have.

What does it say that my kids got me a Jason Varitek t-shirt? Yup...that they have been listening when we are watching a Sox game and I tell them all to "WAVE TO DADDY!"

I agree with Laurie. Going to bed at a reasonable hour doesn't mean squat in the grand scheme of things.

Have you noticed? The ones who are self-proclaimed 'bad mommy's' have turned out the bestest kids. I think it's a defense mechanism.

But either way, I hope you had a great mothers day!

And is it NOW official? You have a *good* mommy badge.

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[User Picture]From: spinthemoon
2007-05-17 04:51 am (UTC)

Re: What great kids you have.

I think the only think keeping me from being a REALLY bad mommy is that I have REALLY good kids.
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From: (Anonymous)
2007-05-23 12:17 am (UTC)
Uh, I noticed your bod, or was it your shallow?
Actually it ws your intelligence and wit.

Besides you were a year ahead of me. How cool was that?


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[User Picture]From: spinthemoon
2007-05-23 05:21 pm (UTC)
Hey, you should stop by more often. And not just because you say nice things about me.
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