OK, now that I've gotten that out of the way, on with the post...
I'm always fascinated by coincidence. It never ceases to amaze me how the same topic can appear in two very different places at the same time.
Earlier this week, I clicked on a link over at Whedonesque to see James Marsters say a few words about his time on Buffy. The interviewer asked what about Spike struck a chord with the viewers and made him such a popular character. And he replied something along the lines of, "The lie of it. People like to think that a bad boy can be good to his girlfriend. But bad boys aren't good to their girlfriends, because they're bad."
The very next day, someone on Banshees posted a very fine pic of Robert Downey Jr, and several people commented how they found his "bad boy" days very sexy.
And I'm sorry, but WTF? There is nothing sexy about bad. (Although there is much sexy about RDJ) Bad is just...bad.
The allure of the bad boy is simply this: the need to feel special. Because if you love the bad boys, it's because being with a bad boy means one of these things
1) I am so special that my love will change him and make him be good
2) I am so special that even though he is bad, he will be good to me
3) I am so special that only I can see that he isn't really bad
And none of this is true. If you are with a really bad boy, he is not being good to you. He just hasn't been bad to you yet.
Can bad boys grow up to be good men? Sure. But that doesn't mean they were good when they were bad.
Let's hear it for the good guys!